Renowned love expert Dr. Ava Cadell is the go-to person when it comes to advice on sex and relationships.
Her sensational new book Neuroloveology: The Power To Mindful Love & Sex is a veritable goldmine of information for couples looking to keep their love alive.
"I want to motivate people from all walks of life to use their brains in a capacity where love becomes almost like the meaning of life. It becomes a priority – whether it’s finding love, or whether it’s maintaining love and passion," says Dr. Ava."I believe that in the end, nothing is going to matter as much as loving memories we have created. It’s all about love – that one intangible that makes us deliriously happy or absolutely miserable. The power of love is just incredible."
Dr. Ava has been scouted many times to appear on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, so we were wondering what advice she would give the couples on the show, especially Lisa Vanderpump and Ken Todd, and Kyle Richards and Mauricio Umansky.
Both couples have been married for decades, so how to keep that flame alive? Communication! says the good Doctor.
"That is the number one question I am asked all over the world – I have heard Lisa say that she and Ken don’t have a sexual relationship anymore. She said it quite matter-of-factly, like it’s not expected after 30 years of marriage. But I think that sex is one of the major ingredients for a constantly successful relationship. I say that there are five ingredients, and sex is one of them," says Dr. Ava.
"What couples can do if they want to reignite the passion is defeat the 'passion assassins'. These are the internal and external distractions we all have that prevent us from connecting, whether it’s with our spouse, our kids, our friends… life is exhausting and we are all trying to multitask, which is so bad for the brain. It is the worst thing to do because your brain was never created to multitask, it was created for single mindfulness.
"You have to list what those distractions are whether they are the kids, your cell phone, the TV, or internal insecurities about your body image or anger towards your partner. Whatever it is you have to identify it and then you need to connect with your partner in a non-stressful environment.
"The bedroom should be the sexiest place of this so make sure its free of clutter and your have music, some flowers, lighting just right and what happens is this environment will automatically release dopamine in our brains and triggers our love hormones. Hug each other for a minimum of six seconds and have eye contact, so you release those endorphins that get you into a juicy state of mind. That’s the first step to an intimate connection that can lead to romance, passion and the best sex of your life!"
Fantastic advice from Dr. Ava! To find out more, visit her website here.