It's nobody's business to lecture Hynde on how she should feel about her own trauma
Chrissie Hynde has stirred up a veritable hornets nest of outrage following controversial comments she made recently regarding the subject of rape.
During an interview with Britain's The Sunday Times, to promote her new autobiography, Reckless, the 63-year-old talked candidly about a horrific sexual assault she was forced to endure when she was 21.
Hynde detailed how a group of men from a biker gang raped her, after driving her to an empty house, on the pretense of going to a party—and then, using the threat of violence, forced her to have sex with them.
More than 40-years on, and Hynde firmly blames herself—and herself alone—for the gruesome attack, telling the Times:
This was all my doing and I take full responsibility.
You can't paint yourself into a corner and then say whose brush is this?
You have to take responsibility. I mean, I was naïve.
Hyde went on to state that women who dress “provocatively" in public have only themselves to blame if they become victims of sexual assault, claiming:
If I'm walking around in my underwear and I'm drunk? Who else's fault can it be? – Er, the guy who attacks you?
Oh, come on! That's just silly.
If I'm walking around and I'm very modestly dressed and I'm keeping to myself and someone attacks me, then I'd say that's his fault.
But if I'm being very lairy and putting it about and being provocative, then you are enticing someone who's already unhinged — don't do that."
You know, if you don't want to entice a rapist, don't wear high heels so you can't run from him. If you're wearing something that says 'Come and fuck me', you'd better be good on your feet. I don't think I'm saying anything controversial am I?
Wow. Just, wow.
It's really easy to see why so many have rushed to condemn Hynde—and, quite frankly, if a man had made those same comments, or a woman, who had never personally been affected by such an unthinkable ordeal, I'd be right up there with those criticizing the singer for her victim blaming rhetoric.
But, it's neither of those—Hynde was raped, she was forced to endure an utterly horrific sexual assault at a very young age—and, the very reason why I disagree with Hynde's viewpoint…because it is NEVER the victim's fault….. is the exact same reason why I would never condemn Hynde for her viewpoint.
Because, she is a victim.
Now, however she has chosen to process what happened to her, whatever narrative she has created in order for herself to make sense of what occurred that night, the belief set she has formulated to help get herself through it, to stop being frightened, to stop believing that she's powerless—then, more power to her.
It is absolutely nobody's business to lecture Hynde on how she should feel about her own trauma, about her own feelings—and, as research has proven time, and time again, it is only too common for rape victims to internalize blame, and to hold themselves, their actions, the way they were dressed etc….responsible for their attack—not to mention the influence of the ever judging media, families, friends, society, the judicial system.
In a culture where females are still encouraged from a very young age to second guess their behavior, and to blame themselves when they are so horrifically violated by others, it's hardly shocking some women will automatically do that, and at the same time pass that message and belief system on to other girls and women.
But, nope, nah, nada, nein, nicht, no, never……
Being raped is NEVER your fault….never, ever, ever.
I truly hope Chrissy Hynde will realize that for herself one day.
I truly hope ALL women—and men— will realize that one day.
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Was the Jimmy Fallon Blackface Skit Intentionally Released as a Distraction from the Murder of George Floyd?
Racist police violence is a modern epidemic. So why are we talking about an SNL skit from 2000?
At this point, celebrity apologies are incredibly common. In 2020, it seems like some formerly beloved actor or TV personality is being put through the wringer of public opinion a few times a week.
Most recently, Twitter canceled Jimmy Fallon after an unquestionably racist skit from the 2000 season of SNL resurfaced online. The skit features Fallon impersonating Chris Rock, complete with black face and an offensive imitation of Rock's speech patterns.
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This quickly led to the hashtag #jimmyfallonisoverparty trending on Twitter. While fans seemed split on whether Fallon should be forgiven for the 20-year-old misstep, most everyone agreed that Fallon should apologize regardless. This morning, he did just that in the form of a tweet.
As far as celebrity apologies go, Fallon's is a pretty good one. He doesn't try to sidestep the blame, he doesn't bring up the fact that there were undoubtedly many, many other individuals involved in the creation of the skit, and he doesn't even mention the fact that in 2000, many people still thought it was possible for black face to be done in the spirit of fun, because the deeply racist nature of the act was largely ignored in mainstream (white) media. Of course, we know better now, and it's easy to see that a white person doing an exaggerated imitation of a black person—darkened skin included—can only be a racist, belittling act with a long, dark history of racial oppression. With that in mind, Fallon's only option was to apologize without caveat or reservation. Indeed, it's refreshing to see a celebrity apology that doesn't try to justify or minimize their own misstep. While we can all agree Fallon made a terrible, racist choice 20 years ago, we have to believe that, like all of us, he's grown since then. If cancel culture is to have any efficacy in making the world a better place, it has to leave room for forgiveness and growth. Hopefully, the whole affair will leave Fallon (and those who witnessed it) more racially sensitive.
All of that being said, one has to ask why the clip was brought up now, given that it's been circulated around the Internet before, and the specific YouTube clip that was shared was posted on the site over a year ago. It's also worth noting that the version of the clip that was going around Twitter has a text overlay that reads: "NBC FIRED MEGAN KELLY FOR MENTIONING BLACKFACE. JIMMY FALLON PERFORMED ON NBC IN BLACKFACE."
Megan Kelly, an outspoken conservative, was indeed fired from her job at NBC because she defended the use of blackface in Halloween costumes, saying on her talk show, "Truly, you do get in trouble if you are a white person who puts on blackface for Halloween, or a black person who put on whiteface for Halloween," she said. "When I was a kid, that was OK as long as you were dressing up as a character." While Fallon's instance of racial insensitivity was in 2000, Kelly defended blackface in 2019, long after society at large had begun to acknowledge the hurt that blackface and other forms of racial impersonation could cause. This fundamental difference aside, Kelly also has a long history of racial insensitivity that Fallon does not, even once saying, "What is the evidence that what happened to Eric Garner and what happened to Michael Brown has anything to do with race?" in a conversation about the epidemic of racist police officers in America.
Given the text overlay, it's pretty clear that whoever began the #jimmyfallonisoverparty was not necessarily seeking justice for the black community, but was instead trying to imply hypocrisy in the cancellation of Megan Kelly, given that Fallon (who has been outspoken about the flaws of the Trump administration and political pundits like Kelly) is still on the air. One even has to wonder if, given that it's obvious that the #jimmyfallonisoverparty trend was begun by a conservative individual or group, if the trend was meant to be a distraction from the widespread racist police violence that has been emphasized in recent weeks by incidents like the death of George Floyd, a black man who was murdered in Minneapolis by a white police officer on Monday. It seems oddly coincidental that the clip of Fallon should flood the Internet with controversy the day after Floyd's murder, unfortunately serving to help steer conversation away from Floyd's unjust death.
Indeed, under the unquestionably racist Donald Trump administration, more and more black people are being harassed, attacked, and murdered at the hands of racist white civilians and police officers. But Trump and his supporters don't want you to focus on that–so much so that it doesn't feel impossible that the Fallon skit was intentionally weaponized as a distraction.
In the last few weeks alone we learned that Ahmaud Arbery was murdered senselessly by a white man while simply out for a jog, and we all witnessed the harassment of Christian Cooper, a black man who was threatened by a white woman in Central Park who didn't want to put her dog on a leash. It's clear that racism in America cannot be reduced to insensitive skits from 20 years ago but is instead a current and deadly problem. What Jimmy Fallon did in 2000 was racist, yes; but don't let that distract you from the deadly consequences of racism in 2020, don't let celebrity apologies make you take your eyes of our lawmakers, who aren't doing enough to protect people of color in this country. Don't let the latest "#_____isoverparty" trend distract you from the deadly consequences of racism in our laws, culture, and criminal justice system.
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