Celebrity marriages are renowned for having a particularly short shelf life. It takes many things to make a partnership work—does that include having an open relationship?
With 50% of marriages ending in divorce, is monogamy just an idealistic dream? Is it realistic to think that all your physical and emotional needs will be met by just one partner over the course of a (hopefully) long marriage?
Maybe an open relationship doesn't have to mean orgies and only be about sexual freedom...maybe it's about being secure in your relationship and enabling your partner to get all their needs fulfilled and being ok with the fact that you can't do it all?
Take a look at these 10 famous celebrity open relationships—some have worked for decades, some, not so much….
According to Angie, just because you're open to being open doesn't mean you have to. She has gone on record as saying;
“I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship. Neither Brad nor I have ever claimed that living together means to be chained together. We make sure that we never restrict each other."
Hmmm, we think she's pretty safe in the assumption that with that many kids to look after they probably don't have too much time to act on it though!
Married for 18 years, whatever rules they have—it works for them! Pinkett-Smith has been quite open about the open nature of their marriage, saying;
“Here's the deal... you've got to trust who you're with. And at the end of the day, I'm not here to be anybody's watcher. I'm not his watcher. He's a grown man. Here's what I trust -- I trust that the man that Will is, is the man of integrity. So, he's got all the freedom in the world. As long as Will can look himself in the mirror and be okay, I'm good."
Before they split in 2011 Ashton made it very clear that they had an open relationship and shared threesomes. Demi had to a) be involved and b) pick the girls. Trouble is they clearly weren't on the same page about how 'open' it actually was. He went off and did it on his own with Brittney Jones causing Demi to throw his ass outta there!
4. Tilda Swinton and hubby John Byrne
A truly unconventional open relationship which is about love and not just being free to sleep with other people. Tilda and John have twins and are a family together, but each have other lovers outside of the marriage. Tilda with artist Sandro Kopp and John with a woman named Jeanine.
"It may seem odd but it is certainly the best thing for the children. It's not something I try to promote as a radical lifestyle choice. But it's a situation I find very healthy.
5. Dolly Parton and Carl Dean
Dolly and her hubby have been married since 1966 and recently renewed their wedding vows, so clearly whatever policy they have seems to be working. They seem to exercise the 'don't rub my face in it, don't ask don't tell' rule.
Dolly has said;
“If we cheat we don't know it, so if we do cheat, it's very good for both us. I don't want to know it, if he's cheating on me. If I'm cheating on him, he wouldn't want to know it. And if we do, if that's what's making it work, then that's fine too."
6. Mo'Nique and Sidney Hicks
This is more of a one sided open relationship. He gets to have sex outside of the marriage and it's ok. She chooses not to. Hey if they're both comfortable with the arrangement then who's judging? As Mo'Nique says;
“We've been best friends for over 25 years and we truly know who we are."
This is one sided too….but the other way! Allegedly they have a deal whereby she can see other men but Brian can't date anyone else. Sounds good to us!
This couple had to revise their open door policy after a change of heart (geddit?) by Pink, leading to them separating for two years.
They originally had a 'don't ask, don't tell' policy, but then Hart took it too far and started making public appearances with his blond bit on the side. The cute couple seem to have sorted it out now and are happily reconciled.
9. T-Pain and Amber Najm
The rapper states that he and his wife do not have an open relationship. They just 'sleep with other girls together'.
Sounds pretty open to us, but invoking the 'keep an eye on it' rule that you have to cheat at the same time for it to be ok.
Apparently before they got married and had a baby, old trouser-snake didn't want to be tied down. He told Jessica that he wasn't interested in being in a serious relationship with her and needed it to be open for it to continue. She was devastated but then came around to the idea of being demoted from girlfriend to friend with benefits.
She played the long game and managed to put a stop to it and get him to settle down.
So it seems to us that open relationships can work just fine, as long as everyone knows the boundaries and are on the same page. Stick to the rules, respect your partner and whatever you decide works for your relationship...have fun!