Say it loud, I'm out and I'm proud.....
Kristen Stewart relationship girlfriend Alicia Cargile is now official—the actress is out and proud...at last...
Kristen Stewart is finally out and proud.
Actually scrap that, after months of skirting around the issue, the 26-year-old is gushing about how in love she is with long-rumored girlfriend, Alicia Cargile.
As Popdust reported back in May, Stewart has previously refused to define her sexuality—or to address speculation about Cargile.
Although she has never denied being in a same sex relationship, she was clearly not ready to talk publicly about her love for the visual effects editor.
Earlier this year she explained why in an interview with Variety:
There's acceptance [of sexual fluidity] that's become really rampant and cool.
You don't have to immediately know how to define yourself.
I had to have some answer about who I was.
I felt this weird responsibility, because I didn't want to seem fearful.
But nothing seemed appropriate.
So I was like, 'Fuck, how do I define that?'
I'm not going to.
Plus, I didn't want to fuck with other people.
I didn't want to be this example: It's so easy.
I don't want it to seem like it was stupid for them to have a hard time.
When I was dating a guy, I would never talk about my relationships to anyone.
I feel the same way now.
I'm not hiding shit.
However, something has clearly shifted—and we applaud Stewart for her decision to go public.
Although her private life is her private life—and it's sad people are forced to define their sexuality and put themselves into a box—there's no doubting that by the actress going public she could help many young people struggling to come to terms with their own sexuality.
Because, let's face it, the more public figures that are out and proud can only help breakdown any prejudice and stigma that still (maddeningly) remains out there in the big bad world.
Despite living in a time where same sex relationships are more accepted than ever—we are still living in a time where LGBT people are discriminated against, beaten and even killed, purely because of who they choose to love.
Purely for just being themselves.
And, according to The Trevor Project, LGBT youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide than straight kids.
In addition, nearly half of all transgender people admit to attempting suicide at some point in their lives.
By not talking about her relationship, and acknowledging her girlfriend, Stewart sends a message (albeit unintentionally) that it's something to be hidden and ashamed of.
She addresses that very point—and talks about her love for Alicia—in an interview with Elle UK:
I think also right now I'm just really in love with my girlfriend.
We've broken up a couple of times and gotten back together, and this time I was like, 'Finally, I can feel again.'
When I was dating a guy I was hiding everything that I did because everything personal felt like it was immediately trivialized, so I didn't like it.
We were turned into these characters and placed into this ridiculous comic book.
And I was like, 'That's mine. You're making my relationship something that it's not.'
I didn't like that.
But then it changed when I started dating a girl.
I was like, 'Actually, to hide this provides the implication that I'm not down with it or I'm ashamed of it'
So I had to alter how I approached being in public.
It opened my life up and I'm so much happier.
Don't know about you, but we love love love K-Stew more and more by the day….
To read the complete interview, pick up the September Issue of Elle UK.
And, if you, or anyone you know, have questions regarding sexual orientation and/or gender identity, contact the GLBT National Help Center—via their website or phone: 1 888-843-4564.
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Plus celebrities react to Nigerian protests.
Young people across Nigeria have been pouring into the streets for the last two weeks to protest police brutality, specifically the controversial special police force known as the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS).
Tension came to a head on Tuesday when armed forces fired on protestors in Lagos, the biggest city in Nigeria, who were out past the state-mandated curfew. According to AP News, "Police also fired tear gas at one point, and smoke could be seen billowing from several areas in the city's center. Two private TV stations were forced off the air at least temporarily as their offices were burned."
Not all non-binary people prefer gender-neutral pronouns.
October 21, 2020 marks the third annual International Pronouns Day.
Created by an independent board and first observed in 2018, it's one of those small commemorative holidays that trends on Twitter in hopes of drawing attention to a pressing social issue, like International Women's Day (March 8th) or the ever so serious National Taco Day (October 4).
But Pronouns Day in particular "seeks to make respecting, sharing, and educating about personal pronouns commonplace." The organization's website further describes, "Referring to people by the pronouns they determine for themselves is basic to human dignity. Being referred to by the wrong pronouns particularly affects transgender and gender nonconforming people. Together, we can transform society to celebrate people's multiple, intersecting identities."
But in the words of nonbinary activist and Trevor Project's Head of Advocacy and Government Afairs, Sam Brenton, "Pronouns are hard." Never before have pronouns been scrutinized as closely as they are in 2019 for their power to (in)validate or accurately describe something as fluid as gender identity. In fact, it was only this year that the Merriam-Webster Dictionary expanded the definition of "they" "to refer to a single person whose gender identity is nonbinary" (thus codifying a long history in English language of using "they" to refer to a singular non-gendered entity).
‘Everyone has the responsibility to be respectful.’ — The @TrevorProject’s Sam Brinton is explaining why pronouns a… https://t.co/pMMO8KRvBR— NowThis (@NowThis)1571253180.0
But throwing an additional wrench in the works is the fact that not all non-binary people prefer gender-neutral pronouns.
Take me, for instance: Despite having female biology, I couldn't pass a lie detector test saying I'm a "woman." But my pragmatic, Puritan family is still endearingly confused by the idea of "liberal arts," let alone the notion of gender fluidity. And I'd rather share a communal language with them than do the emotional and mental labor of re-orienting their worldview for them. Plus, I have the privilege of passing as female without feeling too, too, terribly dysphoric (which non-binary people can definitely suffer from, despite not identifying as trans).
But enough about me, look at Queer Eye's beloved Jonathan Van Ness. While he's been outspoken about being genderqueer, gay, and HIV positive, he prefers he/him pronouns. "The older I get, the more I think that I'm nonbinary," Van Ness said. "I'm gender nonconforming. Like, some days I feel like a man, but then other days I feel like a woman." As he told Out magazine, he doesn't identify as a man, but he does prefer "he/him/his" pronouns. In his view, those pronouns don't detract from or contradict his non-binary identity, because gender is not about simple binaries between masculine and feminine identifiers. "Any opportunity I have to break down stereotypes of the binary, I am down for it, I'm here for it," he said. "I think that a lot of times gender is used to separate and divide. It's this social construct that I don't really feel like I fit into the way I used to."
On the other hand, last month non-binary singer Sam Smith announced that their preferred pronouns are "they/them." Smith posted to Instagram, "I've decided I am changing my pronouns to THEY/THEM ❤ after a lifetime of being at war with my gender I've decided to embrace myself for who I am, inside and out." People like Smith and Trevor Project's Sam Brenton simply feel more validated, seen, heard, and true to themselves with gender-neutral pronouns. Smith wrote, "I'm so excited and privileged to be surrounded by people that support me in this decision but I've been very nervous about announcing this because I care too much about what people think but f*ck it!"
Most importantly, as pretty much every non-binary person and activist is aware, changing cultural norms is hard. While LGBTQ+ activism is inspired and passionate and dedicated to expanding human rights to all gender identities, we all know that changing society's entire understanding of gender and pronoun usage is about slowly opening minds. As Smith wrote, "I understand there will be many mistakes and mis gendering but all I ask is you please please try. I hope you can see me like I see myself now. Thank you." Happy Pronouns Day to you/him/her/they/(f)aer/zim.