Will Smith successful marriage
If you're thinking of getting married then look away now.
Will Smith has opened up to Entertainment Tonight about his 'successful' marriage to Jada Pinkett Smith and makes it sound like a whole heap of fun. Not.
The couple have been married for 18 years and have been plagued by rumors about their long union. Jada has previously said that the marriage works because she lets him do whatever he wants to do, leading to talk of an open marriage. Then more recently there was a very strong rumor that the marriage was in fact over—Will was forced to take to Facebook to deny it.
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The dust has settled a bit, so when he was asked by ET at the screening of his movie Concussion in Los Angeles last night what the key to their long marriage was, all he had to do was trot out the usual celebrity shit about love and respect and he would have been home and dry.
But no, Will was brutually honest, saying;
"We've been married 20 years and we've been asking ourselves that question and really at the end of the day it's just not quitting. You can't expect it to be easy, it's like our marriage was the most difficult, grueling, excruciating thing that we have ever taken on in our lives. And you know we're just not quitters.
BOOM! Tell us how you really feel Will!
He then treated us to a nugget of celebrity mumbo-jumbo;
"If there is a secret I would say it is that we never went into working on our relationship. We only ever worked on ourselves individually, and then presented ourselves to one another better than we were previously."
Couple of points here. He said "our marriage WAS the most difficult..." . How come he's talking about his marriage in the past tense? Very revealing.
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Also the whole working-on-ourselves-individually-presenting-new-self-to-each-other BS echoes Scientology theory. Interestingly the Smiths have reportedly disassociated themselves from the
cult church this year. Remember what happened when Nicole Kidman left and her kids stayed? Shelly Miscavige? Maybe the Smiths wanted to avoid the impact of being potentially labelled a 'Suppressive Person' in the event of a split as much as possible? (Allegedly/apparently/reportedly)
Of course in a long marriage there are going to be ups and downs, bad times, good times and all that. But grueling? Excruciating? Marriage is not a fairy-tale and takes hard work on both sides, but he's making it sound like a prison sentence to be endured and to say these things in public just undermines their relationship (which of course they won't talk about) and is quite frankly, humiliating.
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Will and Jada kinda lost all credibility as having a healthy normal home life when they unleashed their bizarre and frankly fucking weird kids on the world and every time they open their mouths a little bit more about their children is explained.
It begs the question, why would anyone continue to subject themselves to such torture? Maybe waiting until the youngest child is a legal adult to avoid costly a custody battle? Whatever their reasons, they seem to be holding on to the bitter end, teeth gritted, out of some sort of spiteful need to ensure they put each other through the maximum emotional pain as possible.
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Seriously Will, if your marriage is such continuous pain and misery it ain't right. Why would you not quit something you can only describe as excruciating?
Do yourself, your wife and your freaky kids a favor and throw in the towel.
Will Smith successful marriage
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore: Before they split in 2011 Ashton made it very clear that they had an open relationship and shared threesomes. Demi had to a) be involved and b) pick the girls. Trouble is they clearly weren't on the same page about how 'open' it actually was. He went off and did it on his own with Brittney Jones causing Demi to throw his ass outta there!
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie: According to Angie, just because you're open to being open doesn't mean you have to. She has gone on record as saying; “I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship. Neither Brad nor I have ever claimed that living together means to be chained together. We make sure that we never restrict each other.”
Hmmm, we think she's pretty safe in the assumption that with that many kids to look after they probably don't have too much time to act on it though!
Dolly Parton and Carl Dean: Dolly and her hubby have been married since 1966 and recently renewed their wedding vows, so clearly whatever policy they have seems to be working. They seem to exercise the 'don't rub my face in it—don't ask don't tell' rule. Dolly has said; “If we cheat we don’t know it, so if we do cheat, it’s very good for both us. I don’t want to know it, if he’s cheating on me. If I’m cheating on him, he wouldn’t want to know it. And if we do, if that’s what’s making it work, then that’s fine too.”
Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel: Apparently, before they got married and had a baby, old trouser-snake didn't want to be tied down. He told Jessica that he wasn't interested in being in a serious relationship with her and needed it to be open for it to continue. She was devastated but then came around to the idea of being demoted from girlfriend to friend with benefits. She played the long game however and managed to put a stop to it and get him to settle down.
Mo'Nique and Sidney Hicks: This is more of a one sided open relationship. He gets to have sex outside of the marriage and it's ok. She chooses not to. Hey if they're both comfortable with the arrangement then who's judging? As Mo'Nique says; “We've been best friends for over 25 years and we truly know who we are.”
Megan Fox and Brian Austin Green: This is one sided too….but the other way! Allegedly they have a deal whereby she can see other men but Brian can't date anyone else. Sounds good to us!
Pink and Carey Hart: This couple had to revise their open door policy after a change of heart ( ?) by Pink, leading to them separating for two years. They originally had a 'don't ask, don't tell' policy, but then Hart took it too far and started making public appearances with his blond bit on the side. The cute couple seem to have sorted it out now and are happily reconciled.
Tilda Swinton and John Byrne: A truly unconventional open relationship which is about love and not just being free to sleep with other people. Tilda and John have twins and are a family together, but each have other lovers outside of the marriage. Tilda with artist Sandro Kopp and John with a woman named Jeanine.
Swinton says; "It may seem odd but it is certainly the best thing for the children. It's not something I try to promote as a radical lifestyle choice. But it's a situation I find very healthy.
T-Pain and Amber Najm: The rapper states that he and his wife do not have an open relationship. They just 'sleep with other girls together'. Sounds pretty open to us, but invoking the 'keep an eye on it' rule that you have to cheat at the same time for it to be ok.
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith: Married for 18 years, whatever rules they have—it works for them! Pinkett-Smith has been quite open about the open nature of their marriage, saying; “Here's the deal... you've got to trust who you're with. And at the end of the day, I'm not here to be anybody's watcher. I'm not his watcher. He's a grown man. Here's what I trust—I trust that the man that Will is, is the man of integrity. So, he's got all the freedom in the world. As long as Will can look himself in the mirror and be okay, I'm good."
Will Smith successful marriage