From Fake Allies to Gay Ambassadors: How Celebrities Celebrate Pride Month

Let's not get confused about what it means to be an ally.

Every Pride Month is a long overdue celebration that recognizes and embraces marginalized identities, combats histories steeped in oppression and violent hate crimes, and gives soulless, opportunistic capitalists a ready-made marketing campaign for all of June.

The corporatization of Pride Month is nothing new; throughout Pride's 50-year history, companies have capitalized on support from the LGBTQ+ community in attempts to increase profits. But in an age when celebrities are no more than brands, they cash in on Pride for publicity and monetary gain just as much as companies do. Thankfully, there are also true celebrity activists who are active members and allies of the queer community. With rates of hate crimes against LGBTQ+ individuals approaching all-time highs, let's not get confused about what it means to be an ally.

While we get to enjoy a full month of queer positivity, learn to identify which messages are about outreach and activism and which ones are just trying to sell Pride as a product. From the regal Neil Patrick Harris becoming a gay ambassador in Tel Aviv to the cave-dwelling Donald Trump diving below our expectations to sell his own Pride t-shirts, we've categorized celebrity celebrations of Pride Month by their true intentions.


In honor of Pride, Jesse Tyler Ferguson and his husband, Justin Mikita, opened a pop-up shop of their bow tie Company, The Tie Bar, in New York City. He announced its grand opening on Instagram, posting, "The @tietheknotorg pride pop up is officially open! Come check it out and pick up all your pride merch henney!!! Shout out to @geronimo who created the fab balloon installation! ❤️ 🌈."

It's lovely that he and his husband share a love of bow ties; but, in the press, Ferguson encouraged customers to shop for their "Pride needs," as if supporting the LGBTQ+ community requires rainbow-themed accessories. "We have been wanting to do something big for Pride for years," he said, "so I am so excited for this collaboration with The Tie Bar building the go-to collection and location for all your Pride needs."

As a concept, Pride merchandise is a frankly gross commodification of LGBTQ+ support, especially considering that most of the profits from selling rainbow merchandise don't fund support for the community. However, while Ferguson and Mikita get free publicity from their pop-up shop, they do donate a portion of the profits to Tie the Knot, a non-profit organization that fights for global marriage equality.

Lance Bass and LeeAnne Locken say to celebrate the Stonewall Uprising with vodka. The 40-year-old NSYNC singer and Real Housewives of Dallas star participated in the 2019 Stoli Key West Cocktail Classic in Key West. On Instagram, he posted an ad for Stoli's limited edition "Spirit of Stonewall" bottle, decorated with Lisa Marie Thalhammer's mural of the same name, located in Key West. Bass wrote, "Checking out the 'Spirit of Stonewall' mural in #KeyWest painted by @lisamariestudio this week to celebrate the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising! #ad You can check out the art on @Stoli's new limited-edition Spirit of Stonewall bottle too – available on ReserveBar now! #stolipride #LoudandClear #keywestcocktailclassic."

Following up last year's Harvey Milk-themed bottles, Stoli will donate a portion of its "Spirit of Stonewall" sales to the Stonewall Inn Gives Back Initiative, which combats bigotry and intolerance through awareness campaigns, educational programming, fundraising and candid public dialogue. That's great and all, but with companies using "cause marketing" to boost sales since 1983, most companies put low caps and strict stipulations on how much they end up donating; and they always end up profiting more than they give from their good-will marketing.


Neil Patrick Harris says he's not a gay icon. But he and husband David Burtka recently traveled to Israel to celebrate Tel Aviv Pride with 250,000 other attendees. The June march is the largest pride parade in the Middle Eastern region, and Harris was named this year's International Ambassador. He took to Instagram to express his gratitude: "Pride. Love. Life. Thank you for having us as International Ambassadors #telavivpride, the outpouring of positivity was truly overwhelming. #grateful @dbelicious"

Afterwards, Harris told The Associated Press that he has "no interest in being a representative or an ambassador for anything except my kids." He added, "I'm just a guy who is married to another guy and we have kids and we live our lives I would say as 'normally' as one would. But I think normal is a very subjective term, especially in the gay community." He added, "It's nice to appreciate where we've come from," he said. "I'm very grateful that I live in a time and in a world where the needle has moved a lot because of others and I'm happy to promote the positivity of it all."

Like Lance Bass, Jonathan Van Ness is also celebrating Pride with vodka—but the difference is that Van Ness' partnership with Smirnoff reflects the company's long-standing and transparent commitment to advocating for LGBTQ+ issues. This year, Smirnoff's "Welcome Home" campaign includes a digital video series, an immersive pop-up store, and limited edition bottles featuring the word "Welcome" in six different languages and a "Love wins" design that features photographs of real same-sex couples who submitted their photos for inclusion. $1 from each bottle is donated to the Human Rights campaign.

The beloved non-binary member of the Queer Eye foursome joins Alyssa Edwards and Laverne Cox in partnering with Smirnoff. Van Ness says, "When we first started [working together] Smirnoff had pledged to contribute $1.5 million to the HRC by 2021, which I'm was so excited about, and [Smirnoff is] staying true to that and I just think that is amazing." On Instagram, he's posted his own message of Pride ahead of hosting Smirnoff's "House of Pride' experience in New York City from June 26 to June 28. He writes, "Happy Pride loves 💕💙 Time to celebrate with your LGBTQ fam & allies alike to celebrate the diversity that makes everyone stronger! 🌈🌈💕"


Now that Taylor Swift's finally gotten political after years of silence, she's trying to "cash in on her LGBTQ+ fanbase." Her latest single, "You Need to Calm Down," so blatantly panders to the queer community that it tokenizes support of the LGBTQ+ community as a trendy fad. With cringey, careless rhymes like, "Why are you mad when you could be GLAAD," Swift's lazy wannabe gay anthem is insultingly blasé about the dire encroachment on queer people's rights. Additionally, Swift has effectively minimized Pride as a fashion statement and queerbaited her fans with clear allusions to bisexuality in the video's imagery and her costumes.

To her credit, Swift has taken legitimate steps towards LGBTQ+ activism, such as posting an open letter to Tennessee Senator Lamar Alexander urging him to support the Equality Act, a landmark bill that would legally protect American LGBTQ+ people from discrimination.

But, still, "You Need to Calm Down" is such a horrendous song.

At no one's request, Joe Biden visited Stonewall this week. He appeared at the iconic bar and bought a round of drinks. Again, members of the queer community disapproved of being treated like a bargaining chip for publicity and personal gain. As Left Voice wrote, "This is the type of allyship that Democrats have always given and will always give: support for marginalized groups when it is politically popular and complicity in their oppression when support is no longer politically popular."

As one Twitter user wrote, "Get the fuck out of Stonewall you aren't an ally Biden. You voted for the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act that hurt the LGBTQ community. Full fucking Stop. #JoeBiden #NeverJoe"

Trump sells Pride T-Shirts now. The back reads, "Make America Great Again," and the website's description says, "Show your pride and your support for Trump with this exclusive equality tee."

Well, when he wasn't detaining migrants in over 200 concentration camps at the U.S.-Mexico border (where 24 people have died in ICE custody due to the inhumane conditions), maybe Trump fingerpainted this shitty logo himself and he's really proud of it.

In closing, don't be fooled by fake allies, always take a shot when it's endorsed by Jonathan Van Ness, and don't let Joe Biden buy you one. Happy Pride.

TV Lists

Welcome to Genderqueer TV: 5 Non-Binary Characters

Gender identity is complicated. But no matter if a person identifies as "genderfluid," "genderqueer," or "non-binary," we all watch too much TV.

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Public fascination with the British Royal Family inspires Internet fodder ranging from how royal titles are defined to whether or not Meghan Markle ate a pigeon in Morocco.

Recently, at the Duchess' baby shower in New York, she shared that she and Prince Harry plan to raise their child with a "fluid approach to gender" so as to avoid "imposing any stereotypes." Aside from choosing gender-neutral colors for their nursery (they chose white and gray, if you care to know), the couple can take advice from a slew of other celebrity parents raising their children to be gender-neutral. Will Smith, Bryce Dallas Howard, Adele, and Pink have all advocated letting children choose their own gender expression, from clothing and haircut to hobbies and pronouns.

Admittedly, gender identity becomes a quagmire once we acknowledge that gender is a spectrum, with varied experiences being assigned their own terms. More confusing is the fact that many definitions are written by and for social scientists rather than the general public. One large umbrella term is "genderqueer," defined as "a gender which is neither male nor female and may identify as both male and female at one time, as different genders at different times, as no gender at all, or dispute the very idea of only two genders."

No matter if a person identifies as "genderfluid," "genderqueer," or "non-binary," the main message is that two categories of only male and female don't fit everybody. But we might be more familiar with this concept than we think. Here are five genderfluid TV characters you might recognize:

1.Taylor Mason - Billions (Showtime)

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Actor Asia Kate Dillon (Orange Is the New Black) is vocal about her own non-binary identity. After accepting the part of the first non-binary character in American TV, Dillon was nominated for a Critics' Choice Award for best supporting actor. The 33-year-old actor notes, "Sometimes you have to see the thing to know that it exists. Maybe there's a queer person in a town but they don't feel comfortable or safe coming out, frankly, and the only representation they feel that they have or connection they have is on television or in a movie, and that's really powerful."

2. Susie Putnam - Chilling Adventures of Sabrina (Netflix)

Lachlan Watson as Susie PutnamTeen Vogue

Lachlan Watson is the non-binary actor who plays Susie Putnam. Watson told Teen Vogue, "I think that [Susie being a trans man] was originally the concept for the character, but I think in bringing me on board and having me talk about my own identity, I think it may have swayed the writers just a little bit to maybe hold off on labeling or defining [Susie] just yet." The 17-year-old added, "I think that's been very nice to be able to almost tell my own story through Susie a little bit."

3. Yael Baron - Degrassi: Next Class (Netflix)

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Played by Jamie Bloch, Yael Baron comes out as non-binary in season 4. Bloch is not non-binary herself, but the show's executive producer Stephen Stohn spoke about the show's interest in gender fluidity to EW: "It's an ongoing story. We've seen it in America… With [more] people coming out as transgender, the whole discussion has really changed over the years and there's confusion out there about what [being gender fluid] is. And not just it, there's a whole bunch of different variations. The scene I actually like the most is not one that Yael is in. It's one where all their friends are expressing their own confusion about their gender: "Do I say 'they'? Or do I not say 'they'?" And they're using the terms incorrectly and they're sort of correcting each other. That's the way we and our young audiences all are. We know there's something out there that's different and we want to be supportive. But we can get confused about it."

4. Sam - Vida (Starz)

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Vida's creator and showrunner is proud that the series features four queer women. She told Vulture, "This is our chance to have a femme queer girl have sex with a nonbinary, gender nonconforming person and see what that looks like." She praised the role of Sam, played by Michelle Badillo, "When you first see Sam, you don't know if they're male or female, and then we see the breasts, and then we see them be on bottom — not on top, like you would think. All of these moments were workshopped and everyone went around the room and shared their experiences. It was a lively few days making it as authentic as possible."

5. Sadie - Good Girls (NBC)

Izzy Stannard plays Sadie NBC

Jenna Bans, the show's creator, originally wrote the role of Sadie as a boy named Ben. At the casting director's suggestion, they chose Izzy Stannard for the part, a young actor who identified as female at the time of casting. Shortly after filming began, Stannard clarified that he identified as a boy. Bans told Variety, "We realized we had a really great opportunity to tell a story about a character who was gender non-conforming, but at the same time not necessarily have that be what leads the story." Instead, Sadie's storyline revolve around Sadie and her mother (Mae Whitman). "We liked the idea that the character of Sadie was exploring her gender [expression] in the show," Bans said, "but I think what we responded to more was that the Mae Whitman's character just couldn't care less."

Meg Hanson is a Brooklyn-based writer, teacher and jaywalker. Find Meg at her website and on Twitter @megsoyung.

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Let's Talk about Bisexuality

Twitter embraced YouTuber and comedian Lilly Singh after she shared she was bisexual. Meanwhile, Rami Malek is an Oscar-winner with a heart of gold who still upset people with his acceptance speech.


Twitter showed its supportive side over the weekend, when Lilly Singh, YouTube comedian and New York Times best-selling author, received an outpouring of support after she expressed her bisexual pride for the first time.

The 30-year-old officially came out with the post, "Throughout my life these have proven to be obstacles from time to time. But now I'm fully embracing them as my superpowers." She added, "No matter how many "boxes" you check, I encourage you to do the same."

Admittedly, we're unsure why we should care about a YouTube personality's sexual orientation. Before launching a film career with appearances in Bad Moms and Fahrenheit 451, Singh rose to fame through her 14 million followers on YouTube under her name "Superwoman" (with an additional 2.5 million subscribers to her vlog channel). Now Singh joins a recent cohort of recognizable figures who have publicly embraced their queer identities. In 2018 alone, high-profile figures in media and professional sports made a point to acknowledge their sexualities, from journalist Ronan Farrow to singer Janelle Monae and actress Tessa Thompson (Thor: Ragnarok). In making that aspect of their personal lives public, they enhance the visibility of the LGBTQ community in hopes to encourage cultural acceptance–especially in the face of intolerant policies such as Trump's ban on transsexual persons serving in the military.

Yet, negative attitudes toward bisexuality, in particular, have persisted within the LGBTQ community itself. Just last year, BBC News criticized bisexual representation in media in Fetishized and Forgotten: Why Bisexuals Want Acceptance. "Bisexuals face hostility from their own LGBT community and are subject to the offensive narrative that they are 'on their way to being gay,' the head of LGBT rights charity Stonewall has said. Many feel their sexuality is seen as being 'greedy.'"

As a result, statistics note a profound discrepancy between the acceptance of bisexuals as opposed to lesbian and gay individuals. Stonewall found that approximately 32% of bisexuals are not open about their sexual orientation to their loved ones, compared with 8% of lesbians and gay men. Overall, there are notably higher rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide among bisexuals compared to gay or lesbian communities. And while there are unique forms of biphobia that are distinct from homophobia, the most common slight against the bisexual community is simply erasure.

For instance, on the same day Lilly Singh received warm messages on Twitter, Rami Malek accepted the Academy Award for Best Actor for his portrayal of Freddie Mercury, whom he called "a gay man, an immigrant, who lived his life just unapologetically himself." Immediate responses pointed out that Mercury identified as bisexual rather than gay. One user posted, "Freddie Mercury was unapologetically himself, as a bisexual man, yet Rami Malek erased his sexuality by calling him a gay man during his acceptance speech. But OKAY."

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While Malek's speech was heartfelt and well-intended, his word choice taps into a quiet but persistent wave of backlash against Bohemian Rhapsody for erasing Mercury's bisexuality. Indiewire criticized, "Not only does the movie frame queerness negatively, but it completely erases Mercury's bisexuality, preferring an either/or view."

Ultimately, of course, media is not the balm to cure homophobia, but high-profile visibility and representation of non-heterosexual identities help, in part, to create a culture of inclusion. Erasing bisexuality is a social problem beyond the LGBTQ community because it simply denotes that some identities are more "tolerable" or legitimate than others.

Meg Hanson is a Brooklyn-based writer, teacher and jaywalker. Find Meg at her website and on Twitter @megsoyung.

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