Why Don't Men Listen to Female Artists?

Who's to blame for this disparity?


This may sound like stereotyping, but most of my male friends, the straight ones at least, don't listen—and won't listen—to female artists.

Part of me always knew this, but a recent trip with a bunch of dudes ignited a lightbulb in my brain that (spoiler alert!) we're mostly boring and predictable with our tastes in music, pop culture, and otherwise. After being tortured incessantly by hours of Bro Rock and Breaking Benjamin, it hit me: Not a single song played over the course of the entire weekend was sung by a female artist.

Why is that?

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27 Things to Text Ashton Kutcher

The actor recently released his phone number on twitter.

Fulltime faux lifestyle guru and part time actor, Ashton Kutcher, shared his phone number on Twitter Tuesday in order to have a "real connection with real people." Only possible from a person as far removed from the unwashed masses as Ashton Kutcher is, the now deleted tweet read, "I miss having a real connection w/ real people. My Community. From now on you can just text me. I won't be able to respond to everyone but at least we can be real w/ each other & I can share the unedited latest & greatest in my world +1 (319) 519-0576 Yes this is my #" The tweet also featured a GIF of Kutcher, saying, "You are the fabric of who we are, and we love you!"

While the tweet made it seem like you'd hear back from the actor directly, fans soon found their texts were answered with an automatic message.

The desire for connection is a normal one, but seeking it through the murky depths of social media seems a little like searching for love at an understaffed DMV. While Kutcher's combined naivete and self-importance is oddly endearing, we can only imagine the rancorous and bizarre messages the 40 year old has received since Tuesday. If you've yet to take this rare opportunity to message The Ranch star (that show still on?), we recommend giving it a go. He literally asked for it. Here are a few conversation starters to help you initiate a life-long friendship.

  1. What inspired you to become an actor?
  2. What do you consider your greatest accomplishment?
  3. What advice do you have for an aspiring artist?
  4. If you weren't an actor, what would you want to be?
  5. What's your biggest pet peeve?
  6. Are you okay?
  7. If you stab a camel's hump, do you think it deflates like a popped water balloon?
  8. Do you want to come over and watch Jeopardy?
  9. Is Iowa real?
  10. Did the tightness of your pants in that 70's show affect your ability to reproduce?
  11. Any tips for cleaning out a neti pot?
  12. Let's make a secret handshake, you start.
  13. What superpower would you have?
  14. Need anything from the store?
  15. Did you ever play lacrosse or is that just how you look?
  16. Are you as nervous as I am?
  17. Would you rather have "Young Girl" by Gary Puckett & the Union Gap playing in your head 24/7 or give Ted Cruz a bath once?
  18. What's your favorite color?
  19. Can I talk to Demi?
  20. Do you regret Two & a Half Men as much as you should?
  21. Could you come pick me up at school?
  22. Remember punk'd? Jeez.
  23. Do you wake up every morning and thank your face for your career?
  24. Could you take a look at this rash for me? Sending picture now.
  25. I'm sending my extensive community theatre resume.
  26. Do you and Mila ever roleplay as Kelso and Jackie? Haha just kidding. No but seriously my wife and I do, any tips?
  27. Are you a dog or cat person?

Brooke Ivey Johnson is a Brooklyn based writer, playwright, and human woman. To read more of her work visit her blog or follow her twitter @BrookeIJohnson.

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BOX OFFICE BREAKDOWN | A Walk Down Memory Lane

AUGUST 3RD-5TH | What's Coming to Theaters This Weekend

The hot summer days have blurred into August and the hotter films just keep coming.

In Popdust's column, Box Office Breakdown, we aim to inform you of the top flicks to check out every weekend depending on what you're in the mood to enjoy. Looking to laugh? What about having your pants scared off? Maybe you just need a little love? Whatever the case may be, we have you covered. Take a peek at our top picks for this week…

The Darkest Minds

Teenagers suddenly develop a slew of weird abilities, but the government is not feeling it, so they decide to send them away to detention camps. Sounds totally normal given the state of our union. Ruby, however, manages to escape from this camp and joins a group of other runaways. Together, they are going to try and fight the adults and take back the future that is theirs.

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PG-13 | Running Time 1hr 44m | 20th Century Fox | Director: Jennifer Yuh Nelson

Starring: Bradley Whitford, Mandy Moore, Amandla Stenberg, and more!

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REVIEW | Bad Moms Christmas...

What Bad Moms Don't Find Funny

Does this Holiday Rom-Com perpetuate gender stereotypes?

Why did someone with a master's degree in Gender Studies (yours truly) subject myself to such frivolity? Because I eat this shizzle up, also because two of my best friends are pregnant and I owe them at least ten movie picks from my baby-induced cheesy movie selections in years past. Don't worry, I am not going to write about how the characters were unrealistic portrayals of women…duh, it's a RomCom, I get it. I wasn't expecting a feminist Christmas cinematic revolution. I actually laughed out loud several times, like at the scene when the Bad Moms were drunk in a Brookstone type store in the mall and while holding up giant back massagers, Kathryn Hahns character screams to the store manager, "which one is best for the vagina!?" I also loved how Kristen Bells character was not portrayed as sexy a single time during the film; she just rocked mom jeans and suburban holiday sweaters like a pro. I love when women forgo sexy and instead fully embrace comedy, sparing nothing for the sake of the laugh. Some of the women in this film do that…sometimes, and I am grateful.

This is what I am not grateful for. The perpetuations of the notion that women are responsible to make the world's holiday dreams come true. This film challenged how women would make them come true, and jokingly lowered the bar (barely), but it never once challenged the idea that a woman should be responsible for the holiday magic to begin with. Sure, it's funny to watch the Bad Moms steal Christmas trees from Foot Locker, order in Chinese food instead of cook, and enjoy a family outing to a giant trampoline park instead of a classical rendition of the Nutcracker. It was hilarious to watch Bad Moms hit their teenage sons in the junk with a dodge ball, and adult daughters send their overbearing Waspy moms flying through the air. (Seriously, go watch the trampoline scene).

What wasn't funny, or even joked about, was that no matter what, the women were going to coordinate something. The holidays might be done slightly differently, slightly quirky, with a modicum of restraint and barrels of suburban humor (Ha Ha Ha I'm not in church, I am watching Love Actually in my pajamas!)…but in this world, there is nothing funny about the Bad Moms not-doing the holidays, that was not part of the joke. A woman not orchestrating, coordinating, and managing the holidays is not funny…it's impossible.

Let's think about the next several weeks In Real Life. Who is coordinating the holidays? Who is on the phone with multiple relatives discussing what time, where, what to bring, how much, coordinating children's naps, planning around football games, and running around for weeks making sure presents are purchased for anyone and everyone that "must" receive something in order to know that they are loved. Who is picking out all these presents, budgeting them, weighing the actual and emotional costs of buying more or less, or not at all? I get that men are involved, they show up to pick out a tree when a woman tells them it's a good time, or hang lights that the woman "pesters" them to hang them, and follow the commands of the batty women they do the world a favor by "sticking by". But come on, are we not tired of watching men look like heroes for doing what they are told, and women looking insane for asking for silly favors like bulb replacements and turkey trimmings?

Bad Moms perpetuates the image of women as neurotic freaks who care about frivolous crap and men as dumb doting Labradors loyally by their side. Could we give a little more credit to both genders, and perhaps display some halfway point between wholesome and whore (thank you Susan Sarandon's character for at least providing the bad mom who literally drops every motherly ball except the strippers)?

In a time of an acknowledgement and resistance of emotional labor, a clear understanding that women in real life are giving up on the notion that we want to be both super heroes and domestic goddesses, Bad Moms could have served up just a tad more 'No Thank you', 'Nah Uh', and 'Nope'. The movie could have given women an example, a road map to unburdening ourselves of the pressures of creating holiday dreams that last a lifetime, and given us back a life we would actually be inspired to live. The movie hints at the unnecessary pressure women put on ourselves during the holidays, and the insane amount of people pleasing we get sucked into, but Bad Moms fails to truly reject that the holidays are a women's responsibility all together.

What would happen if women didn't participate this year? What would "the season" look like? I am not suggesting that men are purposely relying on us either. I am suggesting that in 2017, in the middle of Harvey Weinstein call-outs, domestic labor articles being written faster than coffee-cup sleeves are being shoved onto holiday beverages, and the constant rejection of standard mommy-hood madness is being yelled from the tops of diaper changing stations everywhere, the holidays come upon us and so many of us still find ourselves clinging to our archaic prescribed gender roles. How do we end this madness?

I'm not saying women are not to participate or even that all women want nothing to do with the holidays, I can already hear mothers yelling at me, 'I LOVE THE HOLIDAYS'! I am just wondering what it would be like to be a participant of the holidays, rather than the creator of…just wondering if we didn't buy, bake, and beautify, what would happen? What if we just stopped? Would we all be bad? Sad? Regretful? Would we create space for men to step in? Would children have the opportunity to step up and be creators instead of consumers? There must me some type of holiday-reset button…no? I will be searching for it. For now, you will have to excuse me… I have a pie to take out of the oven. #notkidding

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Famous last words.

Before spilling the beans on the deets on her marriage to Ashton Kutcher, Mila Kunis uttered these prophetic words to radio shock jock Howard Stern:

"I Might Get in Trouble for This."

Well, Mila obviously knows her hubby well, because the Punk'd star HIT THE ROOF when he heard her candid interview. An exclusive source tells Popdust:

"Ashton was livid. He has been so hell bent on regaining his privacy, he's been going out of his way to stay out of the public eye. Then in one stupid interview, Mila airs out all their business for the world to hear."

The 32-year-old mom of one, who is pregnant with her second baby, told Howard she hopes her husband is "fat and bald and ugly," when her daughter becomes a teenager and her friends come over to gawk at him. Then, when he asked if Ashton was "her first real kiss," she blurted out:

"I don't know who it's weirder for: the 19-year-old kissing the 14-year-old or the 14-year-old kissing the 19-year-old."

Then they got on the topic of marriage:

"We started dating with the idea we both were never going to get married."

After That 70s Show wrapped, Mila and Ashton kept in touch as friends, but then, years later, when she bumped into him at an Awards Show, something changed.

"I see this guy and I see his back and he's really tall. Then he just turns around and it was literally like if we were in a movie, the music would start playing and the violins would go...I think for the first time ever he took my breath away...I was like f—k, he's good looking."


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But still, there were no benefits, only friendship. In fact, when Ashton invited Mila to his house warming party, he was planning to set her up with one of his friends! But it was that night that the benefits began:

"Long story short, I didn't leave until the next morning," she candidly revealed, though she said she had wanted to call an Uber and take off before daybreak. "[It was the] the first time I ever slept over while I was single."

After that, they agreed to "live out" their 2011 movies Friends With Benefits and No Strings Attached. Needless to say, their "super private" casual fling turned into "'til death do us part."

"We would never be together based on the people that we used to be."

Naturally, Ashton saw these comments as major infractions to his obsession with keeping their private life private. Considering he previously told the Huffington Post:

"You know, I've learned the hard way how valuable privacy is. And I've learned that there are a lot of things in your life that really benefit from being private. And relationships are one of them. And I am going to do everything in my power to have this relationship be private."


While obviously Mila knows the score when it comes to talking about her marriage, she took her frankness with Howard a step too far for Ashton's liking, our source continued;

"Mila didn't go crazy and talk about sexual positions or anything, but she knew how important privacy is to Ashton and he is really pissed that she revealed so much. They had a huge fight and things are still a bit fragile between them.

The thing is, she doesn't see what the big deal is and that of course is making him even angrier! He didn't even want her to do the interview in the first place!"

Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis got married on July 4th last year in a secret ceremony in California.

The pair who started dating in 2012 are notoriously private about their relationship—when Mila was questioned on the Ellen Degeneres Show in 2013 about Ashton, she turned bright red and could barely say a word.

What we do know is that they welcomed their daughter, Wyatt Isabelle in October 2014 and that Mila is currently pregnant with their second child.

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Here are 5 facts about the Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis marriage that we managed to track down for you..

1. They didn't admit they were married for ages. It wasn't until March this year that, during an appearance on the Ellen Degeneres Show, Kutcher finally admitted they were married. He wasn't exactly forthcoming with pictures and details of the happy day, saying;

"It was a ninja effort. We really didn't want helicopters at our wedding and it's a legitimate concern. I was like posting things on social media that we were in different locations...we didn't want to be screaming our vows at each other."

2. While the couple shared their first kiss on That 70's Show, it's unlikely they would have got together back then. A source told Radar Online that the two of them "despised each other" when they worked together. Apparently Kunis reached out to Kutcher to bury the hatchet after his ugly split from Demi Moore.

ashton kutcher mila kunis marriage factsTheir first kiss was on screen...

3. The pair are notoriously private when it comes to their personal lives. They are rarely photographed together other than paparazzi shots and they try to keep their married life off limits—they don't usually share any details (we're not sure then how Kutcher will feel about his wife dishing the details on their first hook up to Howard Stern today). Kutcher previously told Elle;

"You know, I've learned the hard way how valuable privacy is. And I've learned that there are a lot of things in your life that really benefit from being private. And relationships are one of them. And I am going to do everything in my power to have this relationship be private."

ashton kutcher mila kunis marriage facts

4. Mila Kunis wasn't the marrying kind. In a 2014 interview with W Magazine, Kunis revealed that getting wed has never been on her list of life goals;

"I never wanted to get married. From the age of 12, I prepared my parents for no marriage. Then things changed—I found the love of my life.

Now my theory on weddings is: Don't invite anyone. Do it privately and secretly. My parents are okay with that. They're just excited that I said yes."

ashton kutcher mila kunis marriage factsThis shot from the filming of Ted is likely to be the only shot we get of her in a wedding dress!

5. They both like to date famous people. Kutcher, was of course famously married to Demi Moore for six years. He also dated Brittany Murphy, January Jones and Ashley Scott with rumored hook ups with Rihanna, Nelly Furtado and Lindsay Lohan!

ashton kutcher mila kunis marriage factsKutcher and Moore

Kunis hasn't had quite as many ex's, but equally as high profile—she dated Macaulay Culkin for nine years before they split amicably in 2011.

ashton kutcher mila kunis marriage factsKunis and Culkin

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