We like you, but your genitals gross us out.
If you've watched BoJack Horseman, read recent Archie comics, or been rejected by someone who says they like you but your genitals gross them out, then you're familiar with asexuality—but probably not as familiar as you think.
A 2019 poll found that 76% of those surveyed weren't able to accurately define asexuality, despite 53% of respondents asserting that they could.
And that's fine. I can barely do it after years of research, and according to modern definitions I'm a full-fledged "heteroromantic" "asexual," which, according to Dr. Google, places me among an estimated 1% of the population who are incapable of feeling sexually attracted to anyone, regardless of gender or sex. Or, as Stefani Goerlich explains in sex-therapist-speak, "Whereas heterosexuals are sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex, and homosexuals are attracted to folks of the same sex, asexuals are [sexually] attracted to nobody."
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Julie Chen (Moonves) Makes a Simple, But Not-So-Subtle Statement on Big Brother
Moonves. Julie Chen Moonves.
She's best known for heading up lively discussions and lingering debates on television's The Talk, but Julie Chen (or as of last night, Chen Moonves) is not talking much at all about her husband Les Moonves' current sticky situation. As you've surely heard, he recently resigned as CEO of CBS, but Chen has not appeared as head of her talk show since allegations of sexual harassment on the part of her husband made news.
OK, so Chen is taking some time away from The Talk. Understandable, since her family's dirty laundry (or at least allegations of such) is hot in the headlines. The rest of the show's panel is filling in, discussing the debacle, and feeling the pressure of being pulled in too many awkward directions as their co-host, friend, and former boss are at the forefront of their cringeworthy conversation. Will Chen return to The Talk and face both fans and foes? Time will tell, but that hasn't stopped her from keeping her career kicking as longtime host of Big Brother (also on CBS).
And last night, Chen was on television, showing her face for the first time since her husband's resignation. "The show must go on," as they say, and she did her part to keep things running smoothly. But it wasn't the show's content itself that made
Big Brother fans inhale a collective gasp as the reality competition came to an end. It was the host's final words to close out the program, signing off as Julie Chen Moonves. "From outside the Big Brother house," she said, "I'm Julie Chen Moonves. Goodnight." According to Us Weekly, "In the show's 20-season history, she has always referred to herself simply as 'Julie Chen.'"
People are freaking out. Some are confused. There is support and there is frustration. Is she in denial? Does she believe he didn't do anything the however-many women claim he did? Perhaps he confessed to her yet she chooses to work things through. Maybe she's just not sure how she feels yet, but she holds her marriage vows sacred. And has anyone stopped to think that there is, in fact, a chance that Moonves is innocent?
We don't know what Chen is thinking, but we can see that she is standing by her husband at this time. And that's OK. She is a woman who has the choice to live her life the way she sees fit. If it comes out that Moonves is charged, we will see how Chen reacts. And if she still chooses to remain Mrs. Moonves, that is her prerogative. If we'd do something different, we can (heaven forbid we find ourselves in a similar situation).
That said, as host of
The Talk, it only makes sense for Chen to get back to the table and start doing just that. If she needs this time to be with her family and sort out how and when she'll make a comeback, then fine. But if she dodges this whirlwind and comes back in a few weeks to discuss Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin's upcoming wedding or whatever may be stewing on the Stormy Daniels front, viewers will be the first to call her our for being hypocritical.
Being in Chen's position must be beyond stressful. Accusations like these are not to be taken lightly, and this is her husband we're talking about. And none of this is private. Her whole world is crashing down around her and she is holding on to the person she chose to be her partner for life. The truth will unfold and her marriage will either make it or this will break it. But until Chen talks on The Talk, all we can do is speculate on how she's surviving.
Melissa A. Kay is a New York-based writer, editor, and content strategist. Follow her work on Popdust as well as sites including TopDust, Chase Bank, P&G, Understood.org, The Richest, GearBrain, The Journiest, Bella, TrueSelf, Better Homes & Gardens, AMC Daycare, and more.
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The #MeToo Movement Hits the Broadcasting World Hard
Les Moonves, chairman and CEO of CBS Corporation, resigned from the company on Sunday, Sep. 9 after several allegations of sexual harassment.
The awful Les Moonves story -- like those of other high profile sexual predators, including Trump -- is powerful, d… https://t.co/D9leHumN5E— Tony Schwartz (@Tony Schwartz)1536606985.0
The investigations of Les Moonves have been going on since July of this year with an article by Ronan Farrow of The New Yorker — six women directly accused the chairman of sexual misconduct while others can attest to the abuse at the company.
However, on Sunday, six more women have come forward with more accusations — Moonves has decided to deny and condemn these allegations. The investigation — also written by Ronan Farrow for The New Yorker — details the negotiations of his resignation and the stories of the six women.
CBS said it will pay $20 million to the #MeToo movement — CBS would not disclose which organizations they paid the money to. However, they did disclose where the money would be coming from — the $20 million will be deducted from the severance pay that Moonves would acquire. The end amount is still being discussed.
In the new article by Farrow — who also shared a Pulitzer Prize for exposing the assaults or Harvey Weinstein — wrote about the six additional women who spoke about Moonves' assault between the 1980s and the early 2000s. Stories range from Moonves forcing the women to perform oral sex or exposing himself without consent — if they did not cooperate, he would then hurt their careers with the network.
Veteran television executive Phyllis Golden-Gottlieb and writer Jessica Pallingston were two of the women who spoke out — Golden-Gottlieb filed a police report with the LAPD stating that Moonves physically restrained her and forced her to perform oral sex. In other incidents, he would expose himself and throw her against the wall.
Pallingston said that Moonves coerced her into performing oral sex on him and when she rejected him, he became hostile and called her a "cunt." Both accounts in the investigative articles of The New Yorker are very hard to read and those who have had experiences such as these should be warned ahead of time.
Moonves, the 68-year-old husband of Julie Chen, led the most watched network in the U.S., with shows such as CSI and The Big Bang Theory, and was one of the highest paid chief executives in the world with an estimated $69.3 million in earnings last year. Now, he will step down as chairman, president and CEO of CBS with immediate effect — Joseph Ianniello will replace him as president and acting CEO.
As of now, CBS is still deciding Moonves' severance benefits and is conducting a separate investigation on him.
Moonves, himself, still denies these allegations. "The appalling accusations in this article are untrue. What is true is that I had consensual relations with three of the women some 25 years ago before I came to CBS," said Moonves. "And I have never used my position to hinder the advancement or careers of women. In my 40 years of work, I have never before heard of such disturbing accusations."
Today, CBS This Morning presenter Norah O'Donnell and co-host Gayle King discussed the allegations and compared it with the resignation of Charlie Rose due to other sexual misconduct allegations.
O'Donnell wrapped up her statement with a nice summary of her thoughts on the subject. "There is no excuse for this alleged behavior. It is systemic and it is pervasive in our culture," said O'Donnell. "And this I know this is true to the core of my being: Women cannot achieve equality in the workplace or society until there is a reckoning and a taking of responsibility."
Amber Wang is a freelancer for Popdust and various other sites. She is also a student at NYU, a photographer and intern at the Stonewall National Monument.
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