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Jameela Jamil is best known for portraying the socialite Tahani Al-Jamil on NBC's The Good Place, but she's also been making waves online for her messages of body positivity and vehement protests against diet culture. Recently, she's been coming for some of the patron saints of body-shaming: the Kardashian family.
Every day, countless Instagram influencers promote various weight-loss supplements, such as flat-tummy teas or other sponsored (and usually untested) products. But few have the power of the Kardashians, who—between Kim, Khloé, Kourtney, and the Jenner sisters—reach over 453.5 million followers, and can be paid millions per sponsored post.
Over the past few months, each one of them has posted ads for various weight loss supplements. Jamil has often criticized celebrity endorsements of similar weight-loss products, and she held nothing back in a lengthy comment on Khloé Kardashian's latest ad.
"If you're too irresponsible to: (a) own up to the fact that you have a personal trainer, nutritionist, probable chef, and a surgeon to achieve your aesthetic, rather than this laxative product...and (b) tell them the side effects of this NON-FDA approved product, that most doctors are saying aren't healthy...then I guess I have to," Jamil wrote. "It's incredibly awful that this industry bullied you until you became this fixated on your appearance. That's the media's fault. But now please don't put that back into the world and hurt other girls the way you would have been hurt. You're a smart woman. Be smarter than this."
Just a few days earlier, Jamil had left a similar message on a Kris Jenner ad for a Flat Tummy Co shake. She later posted screenshots of the since-deleted comment, which read, "Flat Tummy Co side effects are cramping, stomach pains, diarrhea, and dehydration and it can impact contraception users. Eat fruit and veg to fill up and feel good kids. It's cheaper and safer than a non-FDA approved powder over the internet."�
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At first Khloé, Kris, and co. did not seem receptive to the criticism. When the
New York Times asked her about Jamil's comments, Kris Jenner stated, "I don't live in that negative energy space. Ninety percent of people will be really excited about the family and the journey and who we are."
Khloé also defended her post, telling The Times that she doesn't have a personal chef and she posts all her workouts on Snapchat—which is somehow redemptive in the weird world of Kardashian logic. "Well, listen, I am showing you what to do, silly person, 15 repetitions, three times, here's the move …" she clarified.
Kim also had plenty of excuses. "If there is work that is really easy that doesn't take away from our kids, that's like a huge priority," she said. "If someone was faced with the same job opportunities, I think they would maybe consider." Of course, Kardashian West has a net worth of $350 million and previously turned down a $1 million payout for a post sponsored by a Yeezy fashion rival. (Kanye reimbursed her).
Jamil wasn't about to let the whole thing go. Following the interview's publication, she reposted some of the Kardashians' comments on her own Instagram and added, "The Kardashians need to check their moral compasses, because they appear to be broken. This was the Kardashian response to being asked by the @nytimes about my calling for transparency and responsibility in their extensive work to promote diet culture."
Later that day, she tweeted, "Essentially, 'fuck the young, impressionable people, or those struggling with eating disorders, we want the money.' I have been given these same opportunities to flog this stuff, and I don't do it, so they don't have to. Thank you, next." She added, "Their pockets are lined with the blood and diarrhea of teenage girls."
Essentially, “fuck the young, impressionable people, or those struggling with eating disorders, we want the money.”… https://t.co/9vmyQRLj8y— Jameela Jamil 🌈 (@Jameela Jamil 🌈)1554045326.0
On April 2, Khloe deleted her Instagram post, prompting another tweet: "Oh look. Khloé deleted her diet shake post....There is hope after all..."
This small victory for Jamil comes after several other strongly worded takedowns of the Kardashians' glorification of diet culture. In May 2018, she criticized Kim for promoting appetite suppressing lollipops. "No. Fuck off. No," Jamil tweeted in response to the ads. "You are a terrible and toxic influence on young girls. I admire their mother's branding capabilities, she is an exploitative but innovative genius, however this family makes me feel actual despair over what women are reduced to."
No. Fuck off. No. You terrible and toxic influence on young girls. I admire their mother’s branding capabilities, s… https://t.co/CgqpuSPfUg— Jameela Jamil 🌈 (@Jameela Jamil 🌈)1526443690.0
She followed this with more posts and another tweet, advising Kim to "eat enough to fuel your BRAIN and work hard and be successful."
MAYBE don’t take appetite suppressors and eat enough to fuel your BRAIN and work hard and be successful. And to pla… https://t.co/26LuHqBE4z— Jameela Jamil 🌈 (@Jameela Jamil 🌈)1526445233.0
In an August 2018 interview with Channel 4 News, Jamil called the Kardashians "double agents for the patriarchy," stating that they're "selling us self-consciousness." She added, "The double agent for the patriarchy is basically just a woman who perhaps unknowingly is still putting the patriarchal narrative out into the world, is still benefiting off, profiting off and selling a patriarchal narrative to other women."
Jameela Jamil on banning airbrushing, the Kardashians and her traumatic teens www.youtube.com
A few months later, a fan Instagram account circulated a clip of Kendall telling Kim she was worried about her weight. "Like, you're so skinny," Kendall said, to which Kim replied, "Oh my god, thank you!" The interview was widely criticized for promoting anorexia, generating backlash from celebrities including Emmy Rossum and Stephanie Beatriz.
Emmy Rossum's post, via Entertainment Tonight
In response, Jamil posted a quote on Instagram that read, "How much did Florence Nightingale weigh when she founded modern nursing? How much did Rosa Parks weigh when she took a seat on that bus? How much did Malala Yousafzai weigh when she started writing about the lives of girls in Pakistan living under Taliban rule. You don't know? That's the right answer. Because it doesn't matter." She accompanied the post with the caption, "Dear the Kardashians. And every girl who looks to them for a reference of how to value themselves. follow @i_weigh for a dose of reality and self esteem."
"I Weigh" is the body positivity project that Jamil has been running since February 2018. It features hundreds of posts promoting body positivity and encourages people to judge their own worth based on who they are, not what they weigh.
It all started when Jamil posted a photo of herself, captioned "i weigh: lovely relationship / great friends / I laugh every day / I love my job / I make an honest living / I'm financially independent / I speak out for women's rights / I like my bingo wings / I like myself in spite of EVERYTHING I've been taught by the media / fucking KG."
The photo went viral, and later Jamil sparked a movement by reposting it alongside a call for others to follow her lead. "I'm fucking tired of seeing women just ignore what's amazing about them and their lives and their achievements, just because they don't have a bloody thigh gap," she wrote.
But Jamil didn't always have this level of confidence. Later in the podcast in which she called the Kardashians "double agents of the patriarchy," she spoke about how she suffered from anorexia throughout her youth until a period of recovery after a car crash forced her to gain weight and reevaluate her self-perception. "I am so, so aware of the damage the media does to a vulnerable mind, it ruined the first 20 years of my life," she wrote on her blog. "In this uprising of female power, we must realize we are being set absurd extra goals, thick and fast. The further we come as a gender, the more ridiculous the ideals we have to fulfill become. We are being distracted and exhausted and our eyes are being taken off the ball. Every minute you spend thinking about how thin or gorgeous you aren't is a minute you aren't spending on growing your life."
Naturally—it comes with the territory—Jamil has received some criticism of her own, especially for her own tendency to post beautiful photos of herself online. She's also been accused of putting down other women, an all-too-common phenomenon in a society that pits women against each other.
She certainly hasn't taken her eyes off the Kardashians; in January she came for Khloé again, this time to critique a post that read, "2 things a girl wants: 1) Lose weight. 2) Eat."
"This makes me sad," wrote Jamil. "I hope my daughter grows up wanting more than this. I want more than this. Sending love to this poor woman."
This makes me sad. I hope my daughter grows up wanting more than this. I want more than this. Sending love to this… https://t.co/nyXD9yz3CT— Jameela Jamil 🌈 (@Jameela Jamil 🌈)1547092607.0
But Jamil has always been an advocate for women of all shapes, sizes, and backgrounds. If you reread her posts, she's actually never denounced the Kardashians' intelligence or capabilities, instead criticizing them only for their decision to promote dangerous products and body-shaming messages. Ironically, she even defended them on an early post on "I Weigh."
The IRONY that I started “I Weigh” in a post DEFENDING the Kardashians saying they shouldn’t be reduced to nothing… https://t.co/V2VNZn6AOU— Jameela Jamil 🌈 (@Jameela Jamil 🌈)1554060716.0
Overall, Jamil has become a heroine of sorts for legions of young girls—and people of all genders and ages—who are constantly overwhelmed by damaging pressures to look a certain way. These expectations are, of course, often created by advertising companies hungry to make a profit, regardless of the consequences of their actions; and they usually pander to heterosexual, patriarchal, and white supremacist norms.
Jamil is acutely aware of her mission's radical importance. "As a woman, being proud of yourself and believing you are *enough* as you are, is an act of social and political resistance," she once posted. If that's the case, her own work—not only believing in herself but inspiring others to do the same—is a full-on revolution.
Eden Arielle Gordon is a writer and musician from New York. Follow her on Twitter @edenarielmusic.
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Breaking down the bias of comfort films.
With the constant onslaught of complicated news that 2020 has brought, sometimes you just want to be able to shut off your brain, relax, and feel happy.
Enter comfort films. These are the feel-good movies that feel like a warm hug when you finish them, the ones that allow you to escape for a short while. We often turn to these types of films in times of trouble or extreme stress, and when we're not sure what films of this nature we should watch, we turn to the Internet for options.
Rivera's "Glee" character was not just important, she was groundbreaking.
As a young queer girl growing up in the south, I was lucky that my parents weren't homophobes.
My parents believed that people were sometimes born gay, and while they wouldn't "wish that harder life" on their children, they certainly made me and my sister believe that gay people were just as worthy of love as anyone else. I was lucky.
Still, in my relatively sheltered world of Northern Virginia (a rich suburb near Washington D.C.), homophobia wasn't as blatant as hate crimes or shouted slurs, but it was generally accepted that being straight was, simply, better.
In high school, it wasn't uncommon to use "gay" as an insult or for girls to tease each other about being "lez." While many of us, if asked, would have said we were in support of gay marriage and loved The Ellen Show, being gay remained an undesirable affliction.
Even more insidious, I was instilled with the belief—by my church and my peers—that if gay and lesbian people could be straight, they would. But since they were simply incapable of attraction to the opposite sex or fitting into traditional gender roles, we should accept them as they are as an act of mercy. At the time, this kind of pity seemed progressive and noble. Those in my close circle of family and friends weren't openly dismissive or condemning of gay people, but we saw homosexuality as a clear predisposition with no gray areas.
Specifically: Gay men talked with a lilt, giggled femininely, and were interested in things that weren't traditionally "masculine." Meanwhile, gay women dressed like men, had no interest in makeup or other traditionally female interests, and probably had masculine bodies and features. In my mind, before someone came out as gay, they did everything in their power to "try to be straight" but were eventually forced to confront the difficult reality that they felt no attraction at all to the opposite sex. I viewed homosexuality not as a spectrum, but as a black and white biological predisposition that meant you were thoroughly, completely, and pitiably gay.
As a child, when I began to experience stirrings of attraction for other girls, I would reassure myself that not only had I definitely felt attraction for men in the past, but I also liked being pretty. I was a tomboy as a child, sure, but as I got older I recognized that my value was increased in the eyes of society if I tried to be a pretty girl. As it turned out, I even liked putting on clothes that made me feel good, I liked applying makeup, and I liked some traditionally "feminine" things. In my mind, this meant that I couldn't be gay, because gay women didn't like "girl" stuff.
As a teenager, I began to learn more about the difference between gender and sexuality, and the fluidity of both. I began to let myself feel some of the long-suppressed feelings of queer desire I still harbored.
Still, in the back of my mind, the instilled certainty of sexuality as an extremely rigid thing sometimes kept me up at night. What if I was gay? Would I have to change the way I looked? Would I have to give up some of the things I liked? In my mind, being gay meant your sexuality was your whole identity, and everything else about you disappeared beneath the weight of it.
But then, Santana came out as gay on Glee.
GLEE - The Santana 'Coming Out Scene' www.youtube.com
If you didn't watch Glee, than you might not know the importance of Naya Rivera's character to so many queer young women like myself. Santana was beautiful, she was popular, she had dated boys, she was feminine, she was sexy, and she was gay. There's even evidence that Santana had previously enjoyed relationships with men.
But the character came out anyways, not because she had to or because it was obvious to everyone around her that she was gay, but because her attraction to women was an aspect of her identity she was proud of. It wasn't an unfortunate reality she simply had to make the best of; it was an exciting, beautiful, aspect of her identity worth celebrating.
Before Santana, it had never really come home for me that being gay wasn't an entire identity—that it wasn't an affliction or disorder, but just another part of a person. She also didn't suddenly start wearing flannels or cutting her hair after coming out. She was the same feminine person she had always been. I had never realized that being a gay woman didn't have to look a certain way. Santana and Brittany's gay storyline showed two femme-presenting women in love, and for me, that was a revolution.
If it wasn't for Naya Rivera, we may never have had that important story line.
"It's up to writers, but I would love to represent [the LGBTQ community] because we know that there are tons of people who experience something like that and it's not comical for them in their lives," Rivera told E! News in 2011. "So I hope that maybe we can shed some light on that."
While Rivera herself wasn't gay (the importance of casting gay actors in gay roles is a separate conversation), she understood how important her character was to the queer community. "There are very few ethnic LGBT characters on television, so I am honored to represent them," Rivera told Latina magazine in 2013. "I love supporting this cause, but it's a big responsibility, and sometimes it's a lot of pressure on me."
Rivera wasn't just a supporter of the LGBTQ+ community on screen. In 2017, she wrote a "Love Letter to the LGBTQ Community" for Billboard's Pride Month. In it, she wrote, "We are all put on this earth to be a service to others and I am grateful that for some, my Cheerios ponytail and sassy sashays may have given a little light to someone somewhere, who may have needed it. To everyone whose heartfelt stories I have heard, or read I thank you for truly enriching my life."
Now, as we mourn the loss of Naya Rivera, at least we can take comfort in knowing that her legacy will live on—that the light her Cheerios ponytail and sassy sashays gave us won't go out any time soon.
Excuse me, I have to go weep-sing-along to Rivera's cover of landslide now.
Glee - Landslide (Full Performance + Scene) 2x15 youtu.be
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